I’ve double-bag caddied for 36 holes on 100 degree days.
I’ve worked 70 hour weeks in the office.
I’ve mowed a dozen lawns in one day.
But, there is nothing that could have prepared me enough for the toughest job in the world…
These past few days my wife Brooke has been out of town thus entrusting our two and a half year old and 11 month old to my so called capable hands. I’ll admit that I have had help as my mother is a saint for coming in town to help. In these past two days we have looked at each other and said “How does Brooke do it?”
There have been moments I have been proud of this weekend. There has also been times that I’ve had to ask forgiveness of my mother by stressing out and taking things out on her. I have to do that often to my wife as well so my poor mom is taking it for the team. Hey even Clark Griswold got to lose it here and there in National Lampoon’s Vacation.
I can only come up with one conclusion.
It is time to lighten up and enjoy this process.
I thoroughly love my kids and the being a dad no matter how hard it can be sometimes. This weekend we’ve gone to the pool twice, taken fun walks with our dog Winston, ran around the yard, made up a small inflated pool on our deck, created art, listened to music, ran around the mall, and yes I confess we even watched a little of the PGA Championships and a St. Louis Cardinals game. This is just part of the dad life I suppose and I’m still getting used to it.
I’d propose an end to trying to do this parenting thing alone. Even if you are divorced raising children, you are still not alone. The earlier we admit that we can’t do it all and all of it perfectly, the better off we will be. The more we rely on friends, family, and God to take care of us and give us patience, creativity, and forgiveness, the more fun we will have. I am ready.
If you are single reading this or are married without kids just watch and observe the parents out there. Learn from their mistakes, learn from their successes. Parents can’t imagine life without kids, it’s an adventure.
Both kids are taking naps as I write this by the way. Why am I not napping? Yep, because there is always something to do.
I’d love to hear some of your parenting stories and lessons. How do you get through the hardest days?
PS If you need a good piece of entertainment as a married couple with kids, watch Date Night with Tina Fey and Steve Carell. Last but not least if you didn’t catch the “The Dad Life” video, you’ll love this.